I like to define a person’s “tipping point” in life as the final catalyst for lasting change. It could be an intense event, a sudden intuitive realization, or a nagging feeling that doesn’t go away. Whatever it may be, it is the thing that has the power to change a person’s entire life by first changing the way they think.
My tipping point was when I was finally, 100% tired out from my own bullshit. The inner turmoil that resulted from me not doing what was best for me, despite knowing exactly what to do, became harder than just doing it. And once I stopped thinking and started doing, the energy behind that choice became a massive upswing for me and started a positive feedback loop – one that lasted.
I got to the point where I was tired of wallowing. I was tired of feeling bad for myself and constantly being in my own way. I had goals and dreams I wanted to achieve, but I wasn’t making any headway or concrete steps toward them. For a long time, thinking about how I wasn’t making any progress would only send me spirling more, which wasn’t productive at all. One night, during a spiral, I started to feel frustrated to the point of anger – and I’m not an angry person. My partner told me to USE that anger as fuel to ACT. My anger came from a place of despair, and yet I consciously chose to use it to my advantage. At a certain point I said ENOUGH to the thoughts that sent me spiraling and made the conscious choice to go after my desires for this life, fueled by all of the things I knew I didn’t want to be. Eventually, the pleasure I would receive from making small steps forward became stronger than the pleasure I would receive from the comfort of staying small.
It wasn’t an overnight change, but once I made this realization I started making small changes through ACTION. I began changing the way I lived by changing the way I thought.
I came to the realization that I am not my thoughts and my negative thoughts have no power over my well-being. By being in the present moment, I allowed myself to be aware of the thoughts that would try to swallow me, to tear me down and keep me small. In my mind, in a loving way, I would say “nope, I’m not going to think that.” Simple as that. Move on to the next positive thought. I did this every time I had a negative thought for a few weeks and I could sense my mind began to rewire itself to not get caught in a swirl of negative thoughts and instead, only listen to the positive ones. The key is to not get down on yourself when you do think something negative because that’s just more negativity piling on for no reason. Instead, remove your emotional reaction to your thoughts and just keep moving forward to the next thought. Teaching yourself how to do this takes time – you can’t expect to reprogram the way you think in a day, week or even years. The key is CONSISTENCY and COMPASSION.
When I only allowed myself to think positive thoughts, my world changed. It’s not that I didn’t know the negative ones were there, because I knew from experience if I put my attention and energy on them they would come in and knock me over like a tsunami. And it’s not like I was looking at life through rose colored glasses, purposely ignoring the bad things out of fear. But I will say, there is absolutely some magic to letting yourself sink into a positive mindset for as long as you can maintain it, as a sort of mental detox or reset. Then once your mind is strong you can come back to the things that are problematic and look at them from a new, more positive perspective. Sometimes, the problems you thought you had when you were down, disappear when you’re UP.
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